Margalis Fjelstad, Ph.D., LMFT Ret.

Author & Therapist

People with Borderline or Narcissistic personality traits are master manipulators who are always looking for someone to take care of their emotional needs, do everything their way, and take the blame for their mistakes and shortcomings. If you have been in a relationship with a borderline or narcissist for any length of time, you will have taken on the role of their caretaker. And, you will find yourself devoting too much of your time and energy to their needs, wants, and rules at the expense of your own well-being, hopes, and dreams.

Are you feeling…

Unappreciated and exhausted?
Confused about what is true or real in your relationship?
Put down, devalued, or demeaned?
Never good enough?
Your real identity dissolving?
Increasing stress, anxiety, and depression?

My books can help you break the cycle of caretaking a borderline or narcissist (BP/NP) and put you on a new path of better self-care, increased self-esteem, personal freedom, and happiness.

They show you how to stop being manipulated by the BP/NP and develop a more empathetic, loving, and understanding attitude toward yourself. You can break the caretaker mindset that has kept you locked into serving the BP/NP's needs at your expense. Find out why your relationship isn't working, what you can do to make changes, and how to better care for your own well-being.

"As a seasoned therapist, Dr. Fjelstad brings insight, compassion and client-tested techniques to readers who have become caretakers to a borderline or narcissist. She clearly outlines skills to neutralize crazy-making rules, set limits and boundaries, and stop the pattern of victim, persecutor, and rescuer."

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