Margalis Fjelstad, Ph.D., LMFT

People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders are master manipulators who are always looking for someone to take care of their emotional needs, do everything their way, and take the blame for their mistakes and shortcomings. If you have been in a relationship with a borderline or narcissist for any length of time, you will have taken on the role of caretaker. And you probably find that it is very hard to not devote all your time and energy to their needs at the total expense of your own well-being.


Do you want to break the cycle of caretaking others and put yourself on a new path of better self-care, increased self-esteem, personal freedom, and happiness?  Learn to stop being manipulated by others for their benefit, and become more empathetic, loving, and understanding of yourself. This will lead to you more equal, fair, and enjoyable relationships.


As a seasoned therapist, Margalis Fjelstad brings insight, compassion and good advice to people who have become caretakers to a borderline or narcissist.  She shares techniques to neutralize crazy-making rules, set limits and boundaries, and stop the pattern of victim, persecutor and rescuer.

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New Book Available Now!

Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship directs the reader through the process of recovering from the damage that a relationship …

3-Page Handbook for Dealing with a BP/NP

Say to yourself: I did not cause it.  I cannot control it. I cannot cure it. Work on yourself: Quit taking abuse—Walk …

Having an Effective NO.

How do you stand up to a borderline or narcissist who is trying to control and manipulate you with charm, sadness, promises, …